Today we tackle a lesser-known wedding issue — a bride that doesn’t dance. While personally, I’m a dance fiend, I TOTALLY get it. Can you imagine if your least favorite thing to do was just EXPECTED at your wedding? What if every wedding involved public speaking, or entertaining your annoying estranged sister or fake smiling at your boss? Oh wait … minus the sister, I did ALL of those things at my wedding! Hmmmmm.
Anywhooo, this month’s question is from the lovely Jess Livezey who is currently in the midst of her own wedding planning that you can read all about here.
“The only time I’ve ever danced unchoreographed was on my 21st birthday, and that’s only because I had some liquid courage. [My mom] said that people come to a wedding and expect to dance, which is fine, but I really want to find a way to get everyone to have a good time and mingle without a dance floor being the only option. I’ve seen ideas with board games and such, but I worry that it would isolate different groups — do you have any (budget friendly) suggestions? I just don’t want to spend 2+ hours dodging requests to shake my groove thang!”
You have such lucky wedding guests! There is usually a significant portion of people at weddings who aren’t big on dancing either, so preparing separate activities will be a big relief to you AND your peeps! Here are a few non-dancing ideas:
Those who cant do, teach.
For those non-groovy guests, why not consider hosting a short dance lesson before the official dancing starts? We did this at my wedding and it was a huge hit! We hired a few dancers from a local studio to come for an hour and teach 3 different box-steps. This worked particularly well at our wedding because we played 1940s music all night, and most people under 30 don’t know how to actually dance without shaking their booty. (Not that I’m against a good booty dance.)
A dance lesson will put everyone on the same level, and will give your non-dancing guests a pass on feeling goofy since everyone is learning at the same time.
Still too much dancing? Try finding a game that has no player limit. I LOVE bunco. Bunco is a dice game that can have 4 people or 400. The BEST part is that you have to change partners every round, so this game would also be a great icebreaker for your guests to get to know each other a little better. All you need are dice, tables and chairs (and maybe a few small prizes for the winners)! How cheap is that? Here’s a great video tutorial on how to play. Bunco is a very high-paced, exciting game — the faster you roll, the more points you get, so there’s no time for awkward small talk.
Dinner and a show.
Giving your guests extra stuff to watch will also ease the pressure to dance. Look into hiring a local comedian or a non-cheesy magician to go around and do a few small tricks for each table (the kids would LOVE this).
Do you have any loud, outgoing friends? (I DO!) One word: karaoke. Only a few people actually like to sing, but EVERYONE likes to watch — it’s like ‘America’s Got Talent’ up in here!
Get back to the basics.
When you boil everything down, it’s really good energy and conversation that turns a good wedding into a great one. Don’t forget the importance of a well-planned seating arrangement. You are the only one who knows each and every guest, so use your best judgement and put like personalities together. Even with additional activities, think of your seating arrangement as the foundation of your party.
Well, readers? Do you have any awesome non-dancing activities? Let’s leave more ideas for Jess in the comments below! I hope this helps, Jess! Thanks so much for your question, and thanks for reading!
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