How to pick first dance music

first dance songs

Not every couple has a song. Or perhaps “our” song is really “Pour Some Sugar on Me,” and you’re trying to be a bit more (OK, a lot more) classy on your big day.

But what do you do when you’re a little bit country and he’s a little bit rock ‘n’ roll? Here are some questions for you and your betrothed to answer that will help find that first dance song without starting an argument over whether “Every Breath You Take” is way more romantic (err, inappropriate) than “My Heart Will Go On.”

What do you listen to in the car? So you may blare Carrie Underwood every chance you get while he is the president of the Rush fan club. But by now, you’ve been on a few road trips together, so think about the radio station or the one album you agree on – even if it’s the Glee soundtrack – and pick a song in that genre.

How do you want to dance? There is no hard and fast rule that the first dance has to be a slow love ballad. Ask yourself if you want the first dance to impress your family and friends who think you have two left feet. Consider taking couples lessons in swing or ballroom dance and choose a song that lets you both shine on the dance floor with your sweet moves.

Does it matter? For some people, music is a huge part of their lives, so that first dance song choice is the signature memory they take away from the big day. But perhaps the memory you really care to remember is the way the cake was decorated or what was served at dinner. If that’s the case, toss a coin and let one of you choose the first dance song without regret.

Brides, what is your first dance song? How did you choose it if you didn’t have an “our” song already?

Amy Trang is the executive editor who brings you these lovely words. She’s glad that words don’t need to be color-coordinated because she would have failed English class miserably.

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